Monthly Archives: December 2012

What This Mama Can Do About Sandy Hook

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With my littles

Like all of you, I spent the day yesterday in a horrified shock. I cried off and on the whole day. It was nauseating and I couldn’t seem to shake it. I prayed so hard, for so many whose names I didn’t know. What on earth, God???

I went to bed last night haunted by the reality that there are 20 parents whose kids are no longer sleeping down the hall. My daughter went to school yesterday too, but she came home.

This morning I woke realizing that I can’t do so many things I want to & I felt hopeless.

I can’t homeschool my kids and never let them go into public again. After days like yesterday this is what I would prefer to do.

I can’t talk to each parent who lost a child & hear their story.

I can’t understand & fix gun control laws in a day. 

I can’t go back and change what happened in those classrooms yesterday. 

I also realized that there are things I can do. Things that will make a difference today and for the days ahead. I’m sure there will be more, but these are what I am starting with today.

I can keep praying.

I can value every person in front of me & teach my children to do the same.

I can make sure that I always leave my kids with a blessing. How many times have I been annoyed with my kids  or been a frantic mom when I drop them off somewhere? Yesterday was a reminder that I want to always part with a smile & a blessing.

I can make sure my home is a refuge for my children. In a world that feels so unsafe & unpredictable, I want my home to be a  refuge for my kids. A place of peace and security where they can play and dream without fear.

I can teach my kids to value and give dignity to human life. What if we raised up a generation that stood up to bullies, that befriended the lonely, that wasn’t consumed with image but others. I can do my best to raise kids who ask what they can offer instead of what they can take.

I can hold fast that despite all the emotion & anger, I have a God who is good & will hold all things together.

“…therefore, we who have fled to him for refuge can have great confidence as we hold to the hope that lies before us.”

– Hebrews 6:18

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My Life As A Gang Member

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I make a hoodie look straight boss.

Don’t be fooled. I may look like a red-headed mama, but I’m totally gangsta. I’ll tell you why…

This month marks three years since we started our adoption process. The number of things God has taught me through this could easily fill a book, and perhaps one day they will.

These past few weeks though I have been thinking about how powerful it is to be chosen. Out of all the people in all the world, how amazing to be picked. Obviously, that translates to God and the way He chooses me in spite of the many reasons I think He shouldn’t.

I’ve been thinking about how it works in terms of friends. The people who could fill their lives and free hours with anybody & they choose me. When they are crying, they choose to call me. When they are excited, they choose to text me. My friends choose me and that says a lot.

Sure, there are plenty of people who don’t choose me. People who didn’t return my calls, people who hired someone else, people who followed another blog and not mine… More people haven’t chosen me than have. Sometimes we can focus on the ones who haven’t picked us.

Recently, I’m really amazed and humbled at my friends who do choose me. What an honor to be invited to be a part of someone’s life. What an honor to have friends, no matter how many, who choose you back. We really are like a small gang.

So, gang, cheers to you! Cheers to us choosing each other.

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Questions No One Asks Me

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I’m gearing up for all the parties about to come at me this holiday season. Class parties at my kids schools, church parties, work parties…lots of parties. I am not really sure how introverts make it through the holidays. I’m an extrovert, but the amount of small talk that happens during all the holiday events is a bit taxing even for me.

Clusters of people standing around asking questions and getting to know each other. Networking & connecting over fruitcakes and cider. Over the years I have noticed there are some questions that no one ever asks me. The following are questions I regularly hear asked to others…but never me:

1. Did you make that? I hear this asked to other moms regularly. Their beaded necklace, their felt headband, their daughter’s dress…never me. No one ever asks if I made anything I ever wear.

2. Can I tweet that? Honestly, I hear this multiple times a week. Someone says something profound or funny and is asked if they mind being quoted on social media. I never get asked that, but for the record you are free to ‘tweet’ me.

3. Did you see the game? Guess I don’t look like a sports fan. I’m glad I get left out of these conversations because I would have to have them clarify which game. Then they would tell me the teams & I still wouldn’t even know what sport we are talking about.

4. Just get back from vacation? You look so tan and refreshed! I heard this question at my daughter’s school the other day between some moms. This has never been asked of me. Ever. First, I never look tan. Even if I did just get back from vacation. Second, I haven’t looked refreshed since my oldest was born six years ago.

5. Want to train for a marathon with us? My social circles have big problems. They all enjoy running. I could fill up all my fingers if I counted the times I’ve overheard this question in the past year. Not once was I asked. Kinda offended. Kinda relieved.

6. Can you take our picture? This is funny to me. I am not a horrible picture taker & am a bit stumped as to why I am never asked to take a picture for someeone. Always, without fail, the people will ask the person standing next to me to do the honors.

Those are just six of the questions I am never asked. I am sure there are more. What questions are you never asked? I’d love to know!

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December 12, 2012 · 4:46 pm

Designing My Life

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I am currently a part of my first book club. Ever. My friend Kat is facilitating it and I really do love being a part. Even if I had to read 8 chapters in one sitting because I was so behind. We are reading John C. Maxwell’s 15 Invaluable Laws of Growth. 

My favorite chapter is one where he discusses designing your life. This quote is how he starts off the chapter.

If you don’t design your own life plan, chances are you’ll fall into someone else’s plan. And guess what they may have planned for you? Not much. – Jim Rohn

John Maxwell shares his tradition that every December he reviews the past year. He pulls out his calendar and goes through all the events and activities of the past year and then evaluates the way he spent his time. He actually goes hour by hour through the previous year’s agenda.

I’m following his lead. No, not hour by hour. More looking at the blocks of time I spend on different activities , commitments and hobbies. DId I get a good return on my time both personally and professionally? What do I want to do more or less of in this coming year?

I am at the very beginning, but the one thing I am sure of is that I want to create more in 2013. In fact, I want to make it a point to create something everyday. Whether it is blogging, design, art projects with my kids…creating refreshes me.

What should you do more or less of in 2013?

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December 10, 2012 · 7:02 pm

A Sunday Kind Of Love

via Sweet Anthem

via Sweet Anthem

I have had a sudden surge of interest into the world of perfumes. My friend Tom pointed me to this treasure of a shop. Sweet Anthem is a microperfumery and their scents  I have smelled are fantastic. They offer handmade fragrances for both men & women. If you have a super picky nose then their option of creating a custom blend is perfect for you.

I can tell you that ‘Sophie’ is a great scent and I am hoping to try ‘Caroline’ soon. To make buying online less intimidating they will ship you samples of 3 fragrances for only $12. I’m pretty sure you’ll love this shop too.

 

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December 9, 2012 · 1:11 pm

Details Matter

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Shoe Repair hut in Seattle

You haven’t seen any posts from me this week because I have been in Seattle on a work trip. If you follow me on Twitter or Instagram, then you have seen extensive documentation of my time there. I just can’t help myself. I love it there.

One thing I love is the way every inch of space is used. Even if it doesn’t serve a functional purpose, it is made to be beautiful. The little details are never overlooked. This little shoe repair shop is a perfect example. Why shouldn’t it be beautiful? Who cares that it is in the middle of a parking lot & no one expects it to be anything more than functional?

This idea challenged me a lot this past trip. It doesn’t matter how big something is, it should be approached with significant value. My home, my schedule, my blog, my free time… all the things in my life. They aren’t little meaningless details.

They make up the greater picture of my life.

I want every aspect of my life to be full of inspiration and significance. Sometimes I forget that the details matter. How fantastic life would be if every square inch of it was designed with meaning & beauty?

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A Sunday Kind Of Love

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My grandmother is lovely, don’t you think? I had told her that Christmas sweaters were coming back in style. You know, the chunky knit early 90s looking ones? If you aren’t aware, they are going for $50-$100 on ebay. The reason I know this is because I was looking for one and was gobsmacked at how much they are going for.

She took this information to heart and showed up the other night wearing one of her old Christmas sweaters circa 1990. At 88 she is keeping up with the fashions. Gotta love grandma AND Christmas sweaters.

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