the tallest midget

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I had never heard this phrase until a few weeks ago —” the tallest midget”. I actually found myself offended by the saying but that isn’t what this post is about. It is about what this phrase made me realize.

A business consultant that I met said it in a conversation and then a few days ago I saw it in a finance article in the Huffington Post. Is it possible that everyone has been using this phrase and I am just now hearing about it? 

You may be the tallest person in the room, but what does that matter if the room is full of short people? You are still short…just not as short. You may be the best leader in the room, the best dad in the room, the best Christian in the room, the best communicator in the room…but who are you sharing the room with?

I’ve been really challenged by this phrase. What room am I putting myself in? If I put myself in a room with people who are outstanding at what they do, how would I feel?

I went to college with some people who were from really small towns. It was a bit of a shock when they came to a 12,000 person university and found out that they weren’t the smartest, fastest or most popular anymore. There were new people in the room. 

Now, I am not talking about success, money, popularity or fame. I mean people who are thriving in whatever it is that God has called them to do. What if I was in a room with them?

Would I feel so good about myself? Or would I realize that I settled for ‘small’ because it was ‘bigger’ than someone else’s.

I discovered that I discriminate when it comes to comparison. I have a prejudice towards comparing myself to people who are better than me. I refuse to compare then. I get all spiritual and remind myself that who I am before God is all that matters.

But, I fully embrace comparison when I am the one who comes out winning.

I look around and feel better about my relationship with God, so I give myself a pass on getting up to get time with Him in the morning.

I look around and feel better about my marriage and therefore put on the emotional cruise control.

I don’t yell at my kids as much as the lady next to me and I crown myself mom of the year.

My blog has more readers than his , so I no longer need to schedule posts or work on improving my content.

And so I begin to believe that I have arrived. 

The battle of comparison works both ways. We can’t compare ourselves to people who are “better” and we can’t compare to people who are “worse”. We can simply steward the gifts God has given us with diligence by constantly growing in the things He has for us & getting into rooms with people who inspire us to get there. 

God says He has more than we can ask or imagine. Let’s take Him up on that. Let’s live up to our full potential.

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7 responses to “the tallest midget

  1. You know, except for your blogs about lipstick and stuff, your blogs are always so pertinent to my life, Elizabeth. And this one is no exception. This, again, is a crippling issue to us when we give in to it. It reminds me to keep my eyes where they belong…on Jesus…

  2. Comparison is something that has been on my mind a lot lately… only the opposite of what this post is about… I usually fall into the “comparing myself to those better than me” camp but, as you said, we shouldn’t compare ourselves period. Thank you for this post. It has given me much to think about.

  3. Staci

    This post came at the perfect time. The Lord showed me recently the tiredness I was experiencing was due to comparing myself to others. That it drained the color out of my life and giftings. We each have unique talents and giftings and there will ALWAYS be someone who seems to have it better and/or easier. We don’t always know all we’re capable of because we’re comparing and we’re also not letting the Lord show us what we can do through Him cause we won’t let go of our own view on life. So I decided to let God show me what I can do through Him and stop comparing myself. He is the giver of good gifts to HIs children and it’s sad when we look at our gifts and then at someone else’s and tell Him, directly or indirectly, “Hey! That one’s better than mine!”. To discover who we are in Him is best and will give us peace on many levels.

    As for arrival? We will NEVER “arrive” on this earth! We go from glory to glory and will not be made perfect until death where we will then be in the presence of God.

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